Busting the Myth of Self-Care
Self-Care is Gutsy
It’s not just about bubble baths and massages. It’s about true vulnerability with yourself, knowing and loving yourself, honoring your deepest values and needs, then acting and moving from that place.
I know the word self-care has been thrown around a lot, especially when it comes to women, new mothers, or currently, global pandemics.
People give you advice like:
“Make sure to practice self-care.”
“Prioritize self-care.”
“It is not selfish to practice self-care.”
But what does “Practice self-care” really mean?
I had always been led to believe that self-care was a spa day, getting my nails done, doing some yoga, reading a good book… All actions. More things to check off the list.
For me this has always been problematic because I am a chronic overachiever and busybody. I have found that being busy and doing tasks/actions is where I derive my self-worth, as well as how I avoid and numb uncomfortable feelings of vulnerability and insecurity.
For me, practicing self-care, as a check list of to-dos, was a death sentence. It was just one more task to do (or not to do well enough) and then beat myself up over.
