Why Doing Nothing is Actually Doing Something Huge

Amanda Richey
2 min readJan 18, 2024
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Doing nothing is hard. Doing nothing for me, feels like the hardest something I have ever attempted. Am I alone in this? Or do you struggle with this too?

My husband is an amazing napper. He often takes time out of a busy and hectic schedule to have a long afternoon nap.

I hate him for it.

I think to myself:

“Look at him there, just resting, doing nothing, like he is worthy of rest or something!”

Ahh. There it is.

My resentment is born of jealousy. Of wishing I too felt worthy of rest, worthy just as I am, even when not doing, producing, contributing.

This is a message that society has ingrained in me: my worth is in my doing. In producing, in consuming, in providing. To be productive and successful one must be constantly producing, constantly moving. Then you will reach the penultimate goal: a happy (successful) life.

The last few years of my life have been a long slow process of unlearning:

Of un-learning what a happy life even means.

Of learning what a happy life means for ME.

And of learning the value in doing nothing.



Amanda Richey

Writer, coach, mother. Helping women crush their goals with ease and confidence.